Being Assertive does not mean you have to change your personality and become aggressive, passive or manipulative. Assertiveness is about learning how to be you and expressing yourself in a confident manner. To be able to do this you have to increase your self-awareness by getting to know yourself, learn how to like yourself and […]
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I have been delivering counselling via Skype, email and instant chat for over two years. I was therefore recently asked by welldoing.org to write an article for their website on online counselling. They asked me to describe how online counselling can fit round busy clients, give some tips with a brief fictional case study to show how
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When my previous counselling supervisor retired, it took a long time for me to find a new one. I finally found a new counselling supervisor that I did connect with and one I was able to be myself. I’ve had a great couple of years with her so I was therefore disappointed to hear that
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Reflection of happiness Recently a fellow colleague helped me out with my BACP accreditation by taking the time to read it and provide some critical feedback. I did not know this person very well but was grateful and happy that they had given me their time. When I found out that I had been awarded my
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Do you find that you get angry so easily and feel your anger gets out of control? You are not alone. However, you must remember that anger can be both a positive and negative emotion. We all have angry feelings now and again. Anger is a normal emotion and in itself it is not a
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Wrapping Christmas presents early, putting up decorations and being actively involved in Christmas has only become part of my life since I have had children. This year as I prepared for my children’s advent countdown activities, I noticed that I was becoming swept along with all the excitement and the commercialism. This made me stop
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Self-disclosure in counselling means a counsellor sharing personal information about themselves during a session. In many approaches, self-disclosure is used carefully, because the focus is meant to stay on the client. The worry is that self-disclosure can sometimes: shift attention away from the client blur boundaries influence the client’s decisions change the balance of the
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With the sad passing of Linda Bellingham this week we are reminded again of the heartache and destruction that cancer brings into people’s lives. Linda was remarkable in allowing us to get a glimpse of her cancer illness showing us her strength and determination to die with dignity. It feels as though she was trying not
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We all have a running commentary of thoughts going on in our head in every situation we are in. These thoughts can be positive and therefore helpful to us. On the other hand if our thoughts are negative they will be become unhelpful to us. Negative thinking can lead to greater stress and unhappiness. It
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Anxiety often leads us to start thinking negatively. We react without thinking and before we know it we are more anxious and the negative thoughts start to flow through our mind. This can then affect our feelings, behaviour and body reactions. In our anxious state our thoughts tend to be exaggerated and contain some distortion.
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