I thought I would use my recent example of being let down by our builder to show you useful ways of moving on. Continue reading
When clients struggle to express themselves in the counselling room or their thoughts are all mixed up, I often encourage them to write a journal or diary. Writing gives them the opportunity to express these thoughts and help them try to make understand their feelings and emotions. It provides a release of these emotions and allowing them to express their feelings. It also provides clients a therapeutic way Continue reading
I recently put up on my Facebook page a quote from JK Rowling ‘ I have never been remotely ashamed of having been depressed. Never. What’s to be ashamed of? I went through a really rough time and I am quite proud that I got out of that’. It was very popular and I expect it got many likes as many people like myself, can relate to it. Continue reading
My counselling is based on the person centred approach which means that I am client led and I believe that each individual has resources within themselves to find their own answers. However, there are times when a client needs guidance along their journey or they find it difficult to express their feelings. An effective counselling tool I use with my clients is creative therapy. This blog post will look at what is creative therapy and what are the ways I use it with my clients. Continue reading
I have been delivering counselling via Skype, email and instant chat for over two years. I was therefore recently asked by welldoing.org to write an article for their website on online counselling. They asked me to describe how online counselling can fit round busy clients, give some tips with a brief fictional case study to show how online counselling chat can work. This is a reproduction of this article. Continue reading
Reflection of happiness
Recently a fellow colleague helped me out with my BACP accreditation by taking the time to read it and provide some critical feedback. I did not know this person very well but was grateful and happy that they had given me their time. When I found out that I had been awarded my BACP accreditation (after releasing a big happy scream) my first thought was that I must let the helpful counsellor know that I had gained my accreditation but I also wanted to share my happiness and have the opportunity to thank him properly. Continue reading
Losing your Mum through death is a difficult grieving journey whether you are young or old. The death of your Mum ended her life but it does not stop your relationship or love with her. For some the mourning of their mum never ends. Continue reading
Online counselling, e-therapy or writing therapy offers secure therapeutic support through email, skype or instant messaging. Instant messaging and email is an online communication that enables you to keep a written record of your sessions, which is useful if you like writing or have the time to reflect on what has been said, Continue reading
Not able to relax on holiday?
Do you find on holiday that you are unable to wind down? Maybe you are facing stress at work or you have an underlying problem. Or perhaps you have a lack of motivation or lack of enthusiasm – no ‘holiday spirit’. If this sounds familiar to you, why not try something different during the holiday season.
Writing? On holiday?
When you are on holiday you should have the time and space to be yourself and relax. It is a golden opportunity to write. If you think that writing means ‘working’ then think again. Continue reading
Expressing Feelings – I often encourage my clients to write down their feelings. I got inspired by Gillie Bolton who says ‘that people should be encouraged to write as they feel and to dump their thoughts onto paper’. I often have client’s who are wary of counselling or find it difficult to talk as they are unable to express their feelings. I suggest they write just a few words each day and often the clients start noticing a pattern with their thoughts or it can reveal why they are feeling depressed, stressed or anxious or it just allows them to sort out their feelings. Writing gives them the confidence to begin exploring their issues with me in great depth. Clients often tell me how inspiring and powerful they find writing therapy.
Writing therapy can also work for the unsent letter or email. Clients who are grieving over the loss of a loved one who had died suddenly often find it hard to move on as there are so many unanswered questions. I therefore encourage them to write a letter to the deceased person. When a person dies suddenly there are thoughts and feelings which are left unsaid and writing these down can allow you to try and reach a sense of resolution. Unrecognised emotions are often identified and the letter provides an outlet for them. Writing can often help the client process their emotions around the loss.
And after? Clients often do not show me their letters and they don’t tell me what they do with them. Often ripping up the letter or burning the letter can be helpful once those emotions are resolved allowing you to move on. Maybe with some it inspires them to write more. All I know is that it has been a helpful part to our therapy. Maybe you would like to try writing about your feelings? Just write as you feel. Don’t worry about the grammar, punctuation etc. Give it a go as you can do it on your own, anywhere. If you have tried writing therapy has it worked for you?