Pacing: finding balance
Living with a chronic condition such as ME/CFS, long COVID or persistent pain often means learning a new rhythm. Pacing is about balancing what matters to you with what your body can sustainably manage, so you can keep going without crashing.
What is pacing?
Pacing helps you avoid the “boom-bust” cycle—pushing on good days, then paying for it later. Instead, you notice limits, plan rests, and spread tasks so energy, symptoms and mood feel steadier over time.
Three helpful ways to pace
1) Spoon Theory
Imagine a set number of “spoons” (units of energy) for the day. Each activity uses some. Spend them wisely and keep one or two in reserve.
2) Timing tasks
Rather than “How much can I do?”, try “How long can I comfortably do this?” Use a timer and jot down how you feel before, during and after to find your personal pacing window.
3) Gradual progression
Start small and increase gently. Tiny, steady steps help you learn safe limits and reduce setbacks.
Create a simple pacing timetable
List your week with three columns: Enjoyable (hobbies, seeing friends), Routine (meals, laundry), Necessary (work, appointments).
Then grade tasks: easy / medium / hard. Spread them across the week with planned rest before and after harder items. Review weekly and adjust as your energy and symptoms change.
Top pacing tips
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Go slowly—consistency beats intensity.
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Rest before you need to.
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Share your plan with family/friends so they can support your rhythm.
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Notice unhelpful self-talk (“I should be able to…”) and respond with kindness.
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Celebrate small wins—your effort counts.
Here is a simple pacing diary template, Pacing_Diary_Weekly_Planner_Counselling_in_Your_Community or if you would like to talk about how therapy can support you with the emotional side of chronic illness, get in touch.
We recently explored spoon theory in a local process group, I hadn’t heard of it before, but it was so interesting to hear how someone managing health issues uses it.
Hi Ryan, my clients find it helpful, and it is good to see people managing their pain.