When I began my counselling diploma at Sheffield Hallam University in 2003, I did not realise how much it would change me, not only in my work, but in my personal life too. I became more self-aware, more thoughtful, and more curious about how I relate to other people.

I still remember the first time I sat with a client who shared raw emotion. I learnt something simple but powerful: being fully present and listening can mean more than we imagine. She wanted to be heard. I could feel the pain she was carrying, and I knew I wanted to do this work.

Over the years, one thing has stayed the same: I feel honoured when clients trust me with their vulnerability. The counselling journey is not always smooth, but I value walking alongside people, step by step

5 reasons why I love being a counsellor

(These are also the motivations that keep me grounded in the work.)

1. I believe in the counselling process

I have been the person who felt lost, hurt, and confused. I needed help, and therapy helped me find my way again. That experience shaped my belief that change is possible.

Through training and life experience, I have learnt that a non-judgemental space, with a steady and respectful relationship, can make a real difference. For me, the relationship is at the heart of the work.

2. I learn from my clients

Again and again, I am struck by clients’ courage and resilience. Their stories often invite me into reflection too, and into noticing where I can grow in my own life.

I am reminded that I cannot change another person. Change comes from within. My role is to support that process, and to keep doing my own work so I can stay open, empathic, and grounded.

3. I can be myself

It has taken time to learn that my best work happens when I am genuine. If I feel stuck, I can be honest about it. If I feel sadness in response to a client’s story, I do not need to hide it. Being real helps build trust. i

4. I make ‘real’ connections

Even when a client feels guarded, unsure, or resistant, I stay interested. I want to understand them. That ongoing desire to connect is central to the therapeutic relationship and to the work we do together.

5. I enjoy helping people

It is a privilege to witness people suffer, make sense of their lives, and begin to feel hope again. I especially value endings where a client leaves feeling more confident, more resourced, and more able to face the future.

I cannot imagine doing any other job. I will keep learning, keep reflecting, and keep showing up as myself. When the relationship is real, clients can build a stronger future for themselves.

If you are considering counsellor training, it can help to reflect on your motivations and what you hope the work will give you.