When something upsets us, it can feel as if it just happens. A comment, an email, a look, a silence. And suddenly we are anxious, angry, shut down, tearful, defensive, or all of the above. In those moments, our nervous system is doing its job: protecting us. The trouble is that when we are in […]
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Today is the Winter Solstice, the shortest day and the longest night. In the UK, the exact moment is around 3.03pm GMT. From here, the light returns, slowly, almost imperceptibly at first, but it returns. I like that the solstice is both simple and profound. Simple, because it is astronomy. The Earth tilts, the sun
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When I trained as a counsellor in the early 2000s, the message felt simple. Talk through the contract, note it in your records, and you’re fine. Written contracts were not talked about. We explained boundaries verbally, maybe had some information on a leaflet or website, and that was considered good enough. Fast forward twenty years,
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If you have read my earlier post, ‘Losing my BACP Accreditation‘’, you will know that I lost my senior accreditation with BACP. In that piece I described what it was like to wake up one day and find that a title I had held for many years had gone. Nothing about my work in the
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Unconscious bias isn’t a weakness. It’s the brain’s quick shortcut. In therapy, those shortcuts can quietly shape how we assess risk, set goals, listen, and end. This post discusses unconscious bias in the counselling room as well as suggesting some supervision questions to explore it to help protect the relationship and improve the counselling journey
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When you’re thinking about starting counselling, it’s natural to wonder: Can I trust this person? Will what I say stay private? What happens if something goes wrong? That’s where counselling ethics come in. They’re the quiet structure in the background that help therapy feel safe, respectful and transparent. In this post I’ll explain what I
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How I end a counselling session well (and why those last few minutes matter) For the first few years as a counsellor, I found ending a counselling session difficult. I recently saw the Abunchoftherapists vlog about going to a counsellor whose session ended with the phrase ‘let’s leave it there’. It reminded me why those
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Reading this BBC article on early perimenopause took me straight back. I felt I had been robbed of something I did not even know I could lose. I started perimenopause at 40. It was a dark time. I was told I was depressed, but it did not feel like depression. Something was wrong and I
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Feeling lonely at uni? You are not broken. What helps and how counselling can support you Reading the recent BBC piece on student loneliness made me pause and reflect on what I hear so often in the therapy room. Halls, lectures and busy campuses can still feel quiet on the inside. Loneliness at uni is
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When a Title Is Taken: Losing My BACP Senior Accreditation Today I lose my Senior Accredited status with BACP. I have been a counsellor for 25 years. I have run my own practice for 25 years. Writing this feels strange. I did not plan to share this. I worried people would argue about SCoPEd. But
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