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Relationship between thoughts and feelings

thought and feeling relationshipFeelings affect us

Positive or negative feelings affect what happen to us. For example, if we are given a birthday present, we feel elated and happy, but if our child breaks our birthday present, we feel angry and upset.  In other words, the situation we are in has a direct effect on our feelings.

Thoughts control our feelings

However, it can be more complicated. Continue reading

Signs of work stress

work stressAs your alarm goes off in the morning and you stir into consciousness, do thoughts of work start to feel you with dread? Do you find it difficult to get up? When you think of work do you get a pain in the chest? Have you lost interest in your work, feel you have no motivation and constantly feel exhausted?

Sounds like you?

It could mean you have job burnout where you have exhausted your capabilities or you have an increased workload putting pressure on you to perform or the high stress work environment and emotional demands of the job means you are unable to cope.  Sadly, the problem of stress and burnout are continuously rising within the UK and is a universal problem. Work stress issues are prevalent among clients who I see from Employment Assistant Programmes. You may not be surprised to hear that teaching and performance pay jobs make up a high amount of my clients.

What causes stress or job burnout?

There are many reasons that can cause stress or job burnout.

  1. Uncertainly in the workplace, for example take-over battles and redundancy threats can lead to stress and mistrust. As a recent employee at a local college, I can see the damage that re-organisation has caused.  When it was first announced staff members were working over and above their normal duties so it slowly became expected of them. Then as time lapsed staff didn’t know who to trust, apathy among the staff built, people were quick to blame each other rather than support each other and there was an overall lack of motivation.  In a large institution this is hard to manage especially when the organisation affects management as well. As a result levels of stress rise.
  1. Some jobs, for example like teachers, doctors, fireman, air traffic control, police officers, journalists and humanitarian aid work are known stressful jobs. The nature of the job is stressful and people are aware of this. However, long hours, poor pay, tight deadlines, media pressure, pressure to perform all adds to the stress. People in these jobs are overly stressed and eventually burnout, often resulting in them leaving the profession. I have a friend who recently re-trained as a teacher in a low performing school. She was highly motivated at the beginning and had a lot to offer the profession. However, after 2 years of constant pressure and lack of support, she is leaving the profession. This is not uncommon within the professions mentioned above.
  1. Overwork can be a response to demands of the firm or organisation, a sign of impending job burnout. Trying to make up for inefficiency with long hours, or attempts to increase take-home pay put a lot of pressure on employees. Overwork eventually leads to people wearing themselves out adding to their stress.
  1. Live events – The death within the family, divorce or separation, a serious accident can affect our health and well-being. Additionally life events such as financial worry or friction with the boss leads to physical illness and affect our overall mental well-being. I remember when I was in a serious car accident; I throw myself back into the job, thinking it would help me cope with the trauma. It just led to a spiral downturn resulting in me taking time out a year down the line.

So what are the warning signs of stress?

It is crucial to recognise the warning signs of stress. Often it is difficult for the person experiencing stress to recognise them, so it falls to spouse, family member or work colleagues.  The following physical signs are if these are the only signs then it is easier to spot. If you suffer from any of the symptoms below, then it may be worth reflecting on your job and how you feel about it.

  • Headache, noises in the ear, dizzy spells
  • Vague ill health, poor appetite and weight loss
  • Stomach ache and diarrhoea
  • Palpitations, chest pains
  • Nervous tics, nail biting and scratching
  • Sleeplessness and bad dreams
  • Irritability and depression
  • Fatigue and restlessness
  • Poor memory and concentration
  • Increased smoking, use of alcohol and tranquillizers

The importance of spotting early signs of stress cannot be over emphasised because simplejob burnout actions can often be taken. It will not necessarily cure the problem but it will help reduce them and prevent major health or mental problems.

What to do about burnout and job stress?

Steps to take to reduce work stress are discussed in the next blog post.

No shame in depression

No shame in DepressionNo shame in depression

I recently put up on my Facebook page a quote from JK Rowling ‘ I have never been remotely ashamed of having been depressed. Never. What’s to be ashamed of? I went through a really rough time and I am quite proud that I got out of that’. It was very popular and I expect it got many likes as many people like myself, can relate to it. Continue reading

Depression at Christmas

depression at christmasWrapping Christmas presents early, putting up decorations and being actively involved in Christmas has only become part of my life since I have had children. This year as I prepared for my children’s advent countdown activities, I noticed that I was becoming swept along with all the excitement and the commercialism. This made me stop and reflect upon  Christmas. Christmas is not a happy occasion for many people. Many people are depressed at Christmas. People who have been recently bereaved or tackling terminal illness or are single or in an abusive relationship or in debt. You may be surprised on how many people are suffering from depression and dreading the isolation and stress of Christmas. Continue reading

Coping with loneliness

coping with lonelinessHelp! I’m feeling lonely.

We all feel lonely from time to time. Loneliness can happen when you have no contact with people. You feel you have little importance or no value in other people’s life. You are excluded from events or you may feel you have little in common with people. However, if you feel lonely for long periods of time it can bring depression and deep feelings of isolation. Continue reading

The signs of Depression

symptoms of depressionStigma around depression

Depression is a serious illness which my clients are often ashamed about. They feel there is a stigma attached to depression. This means they become secretive about it, ashamed and embarrassed that it is affecting them. Some even find that their partner will be too embarrassed to talk about their depression to their friends.  Continue reading