What causes depression? There is no single cause of depression. You can develop it for different reasons and it has many different triggers. For some, an upsetting or stressful life event can be the cause. For example, bereavement, divorce, illness, redundancy and job or money worries. Continue reading
Depression is a serious illness which my clients are often ashamed about. They feel there is a stigma attached to depression. This means they become secretive about it, ashamed and embarrassed that it is affecting them. Some even find that their partner will be too embarrassed to talk about their depression to their friends. Continue reading
My psoriasis journey Its psoriasis awareness week and thought it would be timely to share my journey with the skin condition. I know psoriasis can bring anguish, stress and often depressive thoughts. My psoriasis journey has not been an easy one and often has had its emotional and depressing times. My journey started when I was 13 after my BCG injection. The psoriasis started on my hairline and soon spread over my scalp. That’s when the jokes at school about my dandruff started. Continue reading
Help! I’m feeling low.
Mental ill-health can happen to anyone. Perhaps you are faced with a difficult situation that you feel unable to resolve yourself. You might have had opportunities to talk with friends, but somehow it hasn’t quite worked. Or maybe it’s just too personal. Sometimes friends or family are unable to help us Continue reading
Miscarriage can be devastating
Miscarriage is often an uncomfortable word and one that people do not like to hear or talk about. Yet it happens to every 1 in 4 women. Almost no-one sees a miscarriage coming and it can come as a terrible blow to women, especially as there is often an unexplained reason for it. Women not only have to deal with the physical symptoms of a miscarriage but also the emotional loss of their baby. Coping with miscarriage is a difficult process and it takes time for women to deal with it and come to terms with it.
One day you are looking forward to your pregnancy and then suddenly that is all taken away from you and you are left with an empty body. Often the miscarriage is not detected until the woman’s first scan. She is expecting to see a foetus on the scan and just hears the words ‘we can find no heart beat’. Faced with a silent miscarriage is shocking and totally unexpected. Having the strength to walk out and seeing other Mum’s to be is just the beginning of your heart breaking journey. However, dealing with your emotional impact of pregnancy loss is important for both you and your partner. Continue reading
Self-esteem is your self-image and how you feel about yourself. Your self-esteem is made up of thoughts and feeling you have about yourself. The more positive feeling you have about yourself, the higher your self-esteem and the more negative feelings you have about yourself, the lower your self-esteem. Self-esteem is important as it affects the way you live. It affects how you think, act and feel about yourself and others and how successful you are in achieving the things you want in life. High self-esteem can make you feel capable, productive, lovable and self-confident. Whereas low self-esteem can make you feel worthless, incompetent and unloved. Continue reading
There is much excitement in my child’s class this week – the eggs they have been watching for 3 weeks had finally hatched! Eight baby chicks greeted us this morning. A quick photograph of their excited faces captured the joy, making me smile on my way home. And why not? This little event symbolises new beginnings, and perhaps could be a metaphor for the transitions we all face in life. Continue reading
I posted this comment on facebook and it created reactions from ‘if it would only work’ to ‘I say that every morning’. You could see the difference between those who believed in themselves and those who did not. The more positive feelings you have about yourself, the higher your self-esteem. The more negative you feel about yourself, the lower your self-esteem. Continue reading
Expressing Feelings – I often encourage my clients to write down their feelings. I got inspired by Gillie Bolton who says ‘that people should be encouraged to write as they feel and to dump their thoughts onto paper’. I often have client’s who are wary of counselling or find it difficult to talk as they are unable to express their feelings. I suggest they write just a few words each day and often the clients start noticing a pattern with their thoughts or it can reveal why they are feeling depressed, stressed or anxious or it just allows them to sort out their feelings. Writing gives them the confidence to begin exploring their issues with me in great depth. Clients often tell me how inspiring and powerful they find writing therapy.
Writing therapy can also work for the unsent letter or email. Clients who are grieving over the loss of a loved one who had died suddenly often find it hard to move on as there are so many unanswered questions. I therefore encourage them to write a letter to the deceased person. When a person dies suddenly there are thoughts and feelings which are left unsaid and writing these down can allow you to try and reach a sense of resolution. Unrecognised emotions are often identified and the letter provides an outlet for them. Writing can often help the client process their emotions around the loss.
And after? Clients often do not show me their letters and they don’t tell me what they do with them. Often ripping up the letter or burning the letter can be helpful once those emotions are resolved allowing you to move on. Maybe with some it inspires them to write more. All I know is that it has been a helpful part to our therapy. Maybe you would like to try writing about your feelings? Just write as you feel. Don’t worry about the grammar, punctuation etc. Give it a go as you can do it on your own, anywhere. If you have tried writing therapy has it worked for you?