Help, my Mum and Dad are toxic and causing too much pain. How do I let go?
Clients often battle over society’s pressure that you must look after their parents versus the fact their Mum and Dad is toxic and malicious and causing them too much pain. The guilt of this keeps them maintaining a relationship with your parents, even if it draining to them. This in turn causes them Continue reading
I’m sure we can all think about New Year’s resolutions that we have made and broken. I know that I can think of some! Making new resolutions is often about changing our bad habits or becoming fitter. For example I often hear New Year resolutions of people stopping smoking or drinking Continue reading
Feelings affect us
Positive or negative feelings affect what happen to us. For example, if we are given a birthday present, we feel elated and happy, but if our child breaks our birthday present, we feel angry and upset. In other words, the situation we are in has a direct effect on our feelings.
Thoughts control our feelings
However, it can be more complicated. Continue reading
No shame in Depression
I recently put up on my Facebook page a quote from JK Rowling ‘ I have never been remotely ashamed of having been depressed. Never. What’s to be ashamed of? I went through a really rough time and I am quite proud that I got out of that’. It was very popular and I expect it got many likes as many people like myself, can relate to it. Continue reading
A few years ago, I came across a book called ‘Working it out: Using exercise in Psychotherapy’. This book highlights that walking during counselling or therapy:
- Encourages a client to be more physical active
- Helps a client get ‘unstuck’ when talking about difficult issues
- Physical activity increases creative and deeper thinking
Help! I’m feeling lonely.
We all feel lonely from time to time. Loneliness can happen when you have no contact with people. You feel you have little importance or no value in other people’s life. You are excluded from events or you may feel you have little in common with people. However, if you feel lonely for long periods of time it can bring depression and deep feelings of isolation. Continue reading